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CBA FOUNDATION ADVOCATES AGAINST MAN’S INHUMANITY TO MAN IN IN-LAWS’ DEALINGS WITH WIDOWS 

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AUTHOR: Ony Kachi

 

After Mrs kumbaya (name changed to protect her identity) lost her husband at work in 2005, she was accused of killing him. The accusation did not come from her husband’s brothers but from his sister, who had earlier lost her own husband. It took the combined hard work of the brothers to get their sister off the back of her fellow widow. They told their sister pointedly that she too could face the same accusation she was leveling against their sister-in-law since her husband was deceased too.

 

This real incident underlines one of the greatest puzzles of the twenty-first century: How people who themselves or their mother or children or relatives are victims or could be victims of the dehumanising treatment of widows condone, live with, encourage and perpetuate the horrendous denigration inflicted on widows by their in-laws. The continued existence of this kind of situation of dog eat dog, or rather man’s inhumanity to man, makes one wonder if Aristotle also considered (Nigerian) in-laws when he asserted that man is a rational animal. There is absolutely nothing rational about the dehumanisation widows are subjected to by their in-laws in this clime.

 

A man, who through marriage has become one with the woman he marries, dies, leaving behind his wife and five children (three boys and two girls – this fact is only being added to show that the gender of the children may not even be a factor in how the widow is treated). Almost immediately his siblings and other blood relatives swoop on whatever assets of his they can lay their hands on. If a family meeting is convened, it is not to discuss the welfare of their late brother’s wife and children, who all bear the family name as part of their extended family. No, that is an agenda item for meetings convened by angels, not in-laws of widows. What in-laws of widows convene family meetings for is to make sure they have not missed out any of the assets their late brother could have had. That is how kind in-laws are to a widow.

 

If Mrs Kumbaya thought her case was going to be different because her brothers-in-law defended and protected her from their sister, then she apparently may have ascribed angelic virtues to her husband’s brothers. For, as it turned out, that act of defence and protection from their sister was the only kindness the brothers of Mrs Kumbaya’s late husband extended to her. They never helped or asked after her and her children’s welfare after that. Not even when things became so difficult that she could no longer pay her house rent and ended up on the street.

 

Maybe Mrs Kumbaya should even count herself lucky. Stories abound of widows who had been abused, molested, raped or “shared” by in-laws as part of the property left behind by their late brother. There are stories of widows, falsely accused of killing their husbands, being locked up by in-laws in police cells and the keys thrown into the sea, as it were. What about widows forced to drink the water used to wash the corpse of their husband as proof that they had no hand in their husband’s death. Or the ones forced to spend days and nights in the same room with the corpse of their husband.

 

Nigeria is not exactly a safe haven for women. What with the prevalence of harmful cultural orientations and practices against the female gender, such as preference of the male child to the female child, female circumcision, FGM (female genital mutilation), forced marriage and denial of inheritance, succession and other rights the male gender takes for granted. Generally, Nigeria is not a friendly environment for women, least of all widows considered to be a highly vulnerable group. In fact, Nigeria is said to be one of the least safe places for women in the world with a survey by the Thomson Reuters Foundation conducted in 2018 ranking Nigeria as the ninth most dangerous country in the world for women.

 

The dehumanising treatment of widows is part of what the Violence Against Persons (Prohibition) Act, passed in 2015, was intended to stop. The Act, more commonly referred to as the VAPP Act or law, 

categorises emotional, verbal and psychological abuse as offences and is considered by many legal experts and advocacy groups to be a comprehensive tool for addressing all forms of violence and abuse against all persons. The law seeks to do so by providing maximum protection from violence of various forms against all persons irrespective of tribe, socio-economic class, religion and gender and offering effective remedies (financial compensation) for victims of violence and appropriate punishment (globally acceptable deterrents) for offenders.

It is not known how much of the general population, including in-laws who routinely dehumanise widows, is aware of the VAPP law. While ignorance of the law offers no excuse in a court of law, it is imperative that more enlightenment be created on the existence of the VAPP Act and all its provisions against many of the inimical practices that in-laws perpetrate against widows in the name of culture. Maybe, just maybe, some in-laws, who are themselves uncomfortable with those practices but take part because of family and community pressure, could be emboldened by knowledge of the Act to become advocates and campaigners against such practices.

Back to Mrs Kumbaya, for those concerned about her and what must have happened to her after she ended up on the street. They can heave a sigh of relief that the good Lord sent his angel in the form of the Chinwe Bode-Akinwande Foundation (CBA Foundation) and they took her off the street. Mrs Kumbaya now lives in an apartment rented for her by the Foundation, which also supplied her a mattress, other household items and food stuff.

 

The CBA Foundation, founded in 2015, the same year the VAPP Act was enacted, is a strong advocate for the enforcement of the Act. Along other civil society groups, it is pushing for the domestication of the Act in states of the federation that are yet to enact a similar act. Rigorous enforcement of the VAPP law across the federation will undoubtedly accelerate the mission of the Foundation, which is to promote “the protection of [underprivileged] widows and their vulnerable children in Nigeria, to promote immediate and lasting hope, confidence and courage in their lives.” The Foundation pursues its mission under its 5-point agenda of women empowerment/capacity building, health intervention, nutrition, quality basic education and a self-employment scheme.

 

This piece is not intended to demonise in-laws. The writer is himself an in-law by multiples. It is to call for a change of heart and attitude in society, particularly among in-laws, towards widows, knowing that we, our mothers, daughters, neighbours, friends are or could become widows. In-laws should join public-spirited people across the country in supporting the CBA Foundation in its advocacy for enforcement of the VAPP law and in providing succour for underprivileged widows and their vulnerable children. 

 

There are many Mrs Kumbayas out there but the resources and reach of angels such as CBA Foundation are limited. Men and women of goodwill, including in-laws who have now seen the light, can extend the Foundation’s resources and reach by supporting it in its mission. Contact the Foundation today by sending an email to them at: cbafoundationng@gmail.com.

 

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Rejoinder: “I Don’t Know Justice Osiagor from Adam”: Adegboruwa and the Distortion of Truth

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By Valentine Idedia

It is regrettable and deeply troubling to read Ebun Adegboruwa SAN’s feeble response titled “I don’t know Justice Osiagor from Adam,” in an attempt to deflect attention and create a diversion through disinformation, all while a court case is ongoing. This has been a hallmark of this simple civil dispute since it began in 2022.

Frankly, no one is concerned about whether Adegboruwa knows Justice Osiagor. He is free to associate with the judge, but that should not interfere with a case of this significance. The real issue is Adegboruwa’s disregard for the judicial process, which has led to unnecessary controversy.

The case centers on Maurice Etim, a minority shareholder and director of several companies within the Edmark Group, and his co-director, Sam Low Ban Chai, a Malaysian businessman under investigation by Interpol for serious criminal offenses, including forgery, fraudulent corporate practices, and money laundering.

Etim claims that his signature was used without his consent for corporate resolutions, financial statements, tax filings, and more. These allegations prompted an official investigation, and the Nigerian Attorney General, in collaboration with Interpol, has uncovered substantial evidence, including over 500 bank accounts opened in Edmark’s name without Etim’s approval.

The focus now should be on Adegboruwa’s behaviour throughout this case. Settlement talks initially occurred but broke down when Etim refused to agree to a condition barring him from pursuing legal action. Since then, Adegboruwa’s legal tactics have taken a concerning turn.

While Adegboruwa can claim not to know Justice Osiagor, his insistence (following his letter to the Chief Judge of the Federal High Court) that it must only be Justice Osiagor that will handle his cases on the Edmark matters is intriguing.

This is despite Justice Osiagor’s earlier decision in a sister case, which favours Adegboruwa, raising serious questions, where Osiagor held that the police should be stopped from investigating Maurice’s complaint of forgery of his signature on a board resolution—a document that is part of Adegboruwa’s defence to the Maurice petition for unfairly prejudicial conduct.

Adegboruwa described Justice Aneke as unfair. He is not satisfied that the matter is before Justice Dipeolu. The distinguished SAN wants the matter returned only to Justice Osiagor.

It appears that it is only Osiagor who can do justice in the legal world of Adegboruwa. Is he saying that all the other justices of the Federal High Court, including the senior Justices in the Lagos Division, are not fit and proper to be judges?

Issues of Judicial Bias
What is even more baffling is the series of petitions, motions, and allegations of bias put up by Justice Osiagor. Osiagor had previously handled a case involving Adegboruwa, creating a potential conflict of interest.

Etim’s counsel requested Osiagor’s recusal from two pending suits, and while Osiagor agreed to recuse himself from one, he refused to do so for the primary petition, where Adegboruwa represented the Respondents.

When Etim’s counsel appealed, Osiagor dismissed the motion for a stay of proceedings and vacated earlier interlocutory orders without formal application. He then appointed a junior auditor, Samuel Ibrahim, against Etim’s request for a more qualified firm.

Later, Osiagor replaced Ibrahim with Ariyibi, who was found to have a close connection to Osiagor’s church—a relationship not disclosed at the time.

Questionable Orders and Interventions
Etim’s counsel opposed the auditor’s actions and filed for intervention, but Justice Osiagor ruled against them. Additionally, Osiagor granted orders restricting Etim’s access to the Edmark Group’s premises in a separate petition, despite objections from Etim’s counsel.

Meanwhile, Adegboruwa filed a new action in the Lagos State High Court for more restraining orders, which were challenged by Etim’s counsel as an abuse of the court process.

To complicate matters further, the police were involved in enforcing these orders, despite questions about their legitimacy. The intervention of the Inspector General of Police was required to halt the unlawful execution.

Etim’s counsel also sought Justice Osiagor’s recusal from the subsidiary petition, which was granted in November 2024.

Public Concern
The public is left wondering: What is the nature of the special relationship between Adegboruwa SAN and Justice Osiagor? Why has Adegboruwa insisted that only Justice Osiagor should preside over this matter?

Justice Osiagor’s emotional outburst in court and his subsequent recusal do little to mask the apparent bias and possible collusion between him and Adegboruwa.

This situation is a clear example of the Tragedy of the Commons, where individuals act solely in their own self-interest, ultimately causing harm to all parties involved. This behaviour reflects a broader problem in Nigeria’s legal system.

Conclusion
Ebun Adegboruwa SAN’s actions in this case are tarnishing his reputation and casting a shadow over the legal profession. His tactics, including judicial intimidation, obstruction of justice, and the abuse of state power, suggest that his earlier image as a human rights advocate may have been a façade for self-serving ambitions.

By manipulating legal processes for personal gain, Adegboruwa risks losing the respect he once commanded and may be remembered not as a defender of justice, but as a legal villain who uses his position to manipulate the law.

Valentine Idedia, Sales and Marketing Specialist and has followed the court proceedings closely. He is also an an avid interest in fighting injustice

 

 

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PWD: When Negligence Stole a Childhood: A Parent’s Painful Journey

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(This article is based on a true story. Names and certain details have been altered to protect the privacy of those involved.)

 

 

When Tolu and Ade welcomed their first child, they were filled with hope and excitement. But their joy quickly turned into heartbreak when medical negligence during delivery caused their daughter to develop cerebral palsy. What followed was a six-year journey of sacrifice, frustration, and resilience that forever changed their family.

 

The experience shook their faith in the Nigerian healthcare system, forcing them to seek treatment abroad and make unimaginable sacrifices to provide their child with the care she needed. Today, they share their story to support others facing similar struggles and call for accountability and systemic change.

 

A Shattered Dream

 

Tolu recalls the day her baby was born with a mix of pain and anger. “It was a long labor, something felt off and I kept asking for help, but the doctor dismissed my concerns,” she says. The delay in intervention resulted in oxygen deprivation, and the diagnosis of cerebral palsy came weeks later.

 

“We didn’t understand what it meant at first,” Ade explains. “But as the weeks turned into months, we realized how drastically our lives were going to change.”

 

The couple was devastated not just by the diagnosis, but by the knowledge that their child’s condition was preventable. “Knowing that a doctor’s negligence altered her life forever broke something in us,” Tolu admits.

The Search for Better Care

 

Determined to give their child a fighting chance, Tolu and Ade traveled abroad in search of better medical care, staying there for nearly eight months. The move came with difficult decisions. Ade, a promising professional in his field, had to sacrifice his career to stay back and care for their daughter, while Tolu returned to Nigeria to continue working and support the family financially.

 

“It was the hardest decision we’ve ever had to make,” Ade shares. “I had to set aside my ambitions and focus entirely on her care. But I knew it was what she needed.”

 

The separation tested their marriage and their resolve. “Being apart from my family and working in Nigeria while they were abroad was exhausting,” Tolu says. “But we didn’t have a choice. We couldn’t both leave work, and we needed the money to afford her treatments.”

 

Everyday Challenges

 

Caring for their daughter was more than a full-time job. She couldn’t walk and had to be carried everywhere. She couldn’t control her bowel movements and had to be fed through a tube inserted into her stomach.

 

“We hired caregivers because we needed the help, but it came with its own problems,” Ade says. “Some of them were rude and careless, and we had to tread carefully so they wouldn’t leave or maltreat our daughter in our absence. It was exhausting to constantly manage both their behavior and our child’s care.”

 

The financial burden was overwhelming, but the emotional toll was even heavier. “There were days I couldn’t stop crying,” Tolu confesses. “I felt like I had failed her, even though deep down I knew it wasn’t my fault.”

 

 

A Life Too Short

 

Their daughter lived for six years before complications from her condition led to her passing. “She was our light, even in the darkest moments,” Ade says. “Losing her felt like losing a part of ourselves.”

 

The grief was compounded by anger at the system that had failed them. “She didn’t have to go through all that suffering,” Tolu says. “We trusted the doctor, and he let us down and to think that he was my gynecologist all through the pregnancy. That’s something I’ll never forget.”

 

Despite their pain, the couple has found ways to honor their daughter’s memory by sharing their story and supporting others.

 

What They Want Others to Know

 

When asked what advice they would give to parents in similar situations, Tolu and Ade share the lessons they learned through their journey:

 

1. Speak Up Early

“If something feels off, don’t hesitate to speak up and demand better care,” Tolu says. “Don’t let anyone dismiss your concerns.”

 

2. Find a Support Network

“You can’t do it alone,” Ade adds. “Lean on friends, family, or even support groups. Having someone to talk to makes a difference.”

 

3. Focus on the Love

“It’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the challenges,” Tolu says. “But don’t lose sight of the love you have for your child. That’s what will keep you going.”

 

4. Hold the System Accountable

“The healthcare system must do better,” Ade emphasizes. “Doctors need to be trained and retrained, and there should be consequences for negligence.”

 

The Broader Conversation

 

Across Nigeria, countless families are grappling with the fallout of preventable medical errors. Their experience highlights the urgent need for reforms in the healthcare system, not just for better practices, but for accountability and support for affected families.

“Her life mattered,” Tolu says. “And if sharing her story can spark change, then her legacy will live on.”

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Bashir Adewale Adeniyi: adeptly navigating customs complexities with commitment and proficiency

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By Oladapo Sofowora
Whether admired or criticized, Comptroller General of Customs, Bashir Adewale Adeniyi MFR, is unwavering in his mission to transform the Nigeria Customs Service. His primary focus is to safeguard the nation’s borders against economic sabotage while boosting revenue and facilitating seamless trade relations between importers and exporters, ultimately fostering economic growth and stability for Nigeria.
 Since his appointment by President Bola Ahmed Tinubu’s administration last year, Bashir has utilized his exceptional acumen and strategic insight to elevate this crucial law enforcement agency. Many initially doubted his ability to succeed, but he is decisively silencing his critics with impressive outcomes that have solidified the customs agency as one of the largest revenue-generating bodies in the country, channeling trillions of Naira into government coffers annually and enhancing trade facilitation.
Adeniyi, often dubbed the “new sheriff in town,” is unyielding in his approach, having made it clear to those who previously exploited systemic weaknesses that their days of advantage are numbered. A natural team player, he leads not from behind a desk but from the forefront, diligently ensuring that every loophole is sealed. Those who have profited at the country’s expense feel the consequences, as Adeniyi pursues them relentlessly.
 He believes that for the customs service to function optimally, it must not only focus on revenue generation but also strive to portray Nigeria positively on the global stage. To that end, he has streamlined the cargo release and evaluation processes through cutting-edge technology, significantly reducing the bureaucratic red tape that plagued the service. While his reforms have drawn ire from some quarters, he remains undeterred. Adeniyi has equipped all commands and zones, preparing them to combat both internal and external corruption. Smugglers, in particular, now view him as a formidable obstacle.
 In a resolute effort to protect Nigeria’s agricultural sector, Adeniyi has strategically assigned capable personnel to the nation’s borders, issuing a stringent directive that anyone attempting to undermine the Nigerian economy is seen as an enemy and will face no leniency. This has resulted in tighter border security and has enabled local producers to flourish, attracting increased investment in vital sectors, especially agriculture. Internally, CGC Adewale is effecting a groundbreaking reform of the customs workforce by emphasizing professionalism and ethical standards. He has initiated extensive training programs focused on customs law, risk assessment, and technology, aiming to cultivate a skilled workforce equipped to tackle contemporary customs challenges.
His unwavering stance against corruption, coupled with a strong emphasis on accountability, seeks to restore public confidence in the Nigeria Customs Service. By fostering a culture steeped in ethics, CGC Adewale aspires to elevate the agency into one that commands respect for its integrity and fairness. Adeniyi also recognizes the significance of collaboration; thus, he actively partners with other agencies to forge a synergistic relationship, sharing intelligence that effectively combats smuggling and enhances the interception of illegal goods. The agency has recently reported seizures worth billions while intercepting arms and ammunition, marking a significant turn in fortunes as he strives to solidify the Customs’ reputation as a reputable agency, reversing the negative narrative that has long surrounded it.
Under his stewardship, he has prioritized the welfare of staff, the development of women, and the motivation of officers, fostering a dedicated workforce eager to protect the nation from economic sabotage. Significant seizures from petroleum products to endangered species parts, such as pangolin scales, donkey skins, and elephant tusks, alongside smuggled vehicles, have underscored Adeniyi’s commitment to elevating the agency above others. The digitalization of key customs processes has made trade more efficient, decreasing unnecessary human interaction in order to minimize corruption.
Despite the considerable challenges faced, during Adeniyi’s tenure, Customs has remarkably generated an impressive N5,079,455,088,194.38, exceeding the 2024 target of N5 trillion. As part of ongoing reform measures, six beneficiaries of the Authorized Economic Operators (AEO) program have been selected, with an additional 21 requests processed under an advance ruling initiative designed to expedite customs decision-making on import and export cargoes before their arrival at the ports. Adeniyi’s significant strides, alongside streamlined cargo alerts, have begun to reshuffle the customs landscape in Nigeria, introducing hope and renewed purpose to this vital service.
Beyond the realm of security, the collaborative efforts extend into vital economic initiatives such as the African Continental Free Trade Area (AfCFTA). This ambitious project aims to create a cohesive market across the continent, fostering seamless trade among African nations. Adewale’s significant involvement in the development of AfCFTA-related policies highlights his unwavering commitment to transforming the Nigeria Customs Service (NCS) into an agency that not only facilitates economic integration but also harmonizes customs standards across Africa.
This harmonization is crucial for streamlining trade flows and unlocking a plethora of economic opportunities. Despite facing fierce opposition and deliberate campaigns aimed at undermining his reputation, Adeniyi has remained resolute, undeterred by the negative tactics employed by his detractors. He continues to focus on his responsibilities with diligence and integrity. While some have resorted to disparagement, Adeniyi has made sizable advancements toward realizing his ambitious vision of elevating the customs service to an esteemed position on a global scale.
 This commitment to progress is exemplified through the ongoing Comptroller of Customs conference, aptly themed “Nigeria Customs Service: Engaging Traditional and New Partners with Purpose.” This conference, which had been previously halted for several years, has been revived since Adeniyi took the helm, offering the NCS a platform to engage in meaningful discussions. It serves as an opportunity to reassess strategies, ensuring the agency remains afloat and true to its potential in enhancing trade facilitation while also safeguarding our local economy.
True to the adage that the reward for a job well done is more work, Adeniyi is prepared to meet the challenges head-on, ready to deliver exceptional results regardless of the circumstances. The Nigeria Customs Service has never experienced such a level of organization and efficiency since its inception, earning it recognition as one of the most structured agencies in Nigeria today. This achievement is a testament to Adeniyi’s dedication and commitment to promoting excellence and prosperity within the service.

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